I agree Christianity is not about You gon learn today apple pencil shirt . beating people with a stick for things [in your understanding] that they are doing wrong, it is  about loving people as they are without judgement and letting them discover and listen to other ways of doing things. They may come to different conclusions to us and that’s ok. People have used all religions to dehumanize others, even other religions and denominations, since people started believing they needed a text to tell them how to behave. Don’t just be a good Christian/Muslim/Jew/Hindu, just be a good person.