Not so much to one more than the other It cannot be inherited nor can it be purchased I have earned it shirt but there was a time early in my childhood it was just me and my mother. Dad didn’t leave by cboice, he was a Marine like most Marines they do as they are asked . A duty an order. So I know the times Dad was gone wasn’t by choice. Perhaps being such a young parent and Marine he might have enjoyed that time alone and I’m not complaining, I know I’ve spent the greater part of my life lone and away.