He still visits them Im not just any softball mom i am the catcher mom shirt . so i don’t go over there anymore and haven’t saw them in a It had messed me up in so many ways but i am still attempting to get over it. I’m 14 now and doing a lot better. I still battle with a lot of things but i am doing better now. I haven’t fully forgave him for the pain he has caused me but im getting there. During my holiday my father died, which meant that the holiday period, plus the period of compassionate leave took up almost all of the month’s notice that I would normally have had to serve.