You were born to create that compassionate atmosphere, if your friends are telling you to use women you have the wrong friends. That’s not how people should be, though the world is far from perfect. There are groups for men and women who lost a child. You can also go to a therapist like women do. But men see that as being too whimpy. They think they are less of a man when they aren’t. That needs to be a stigma in the men’s world that needs to be erased. It’s not weak to seek help, in fact it just might save lives. I’m sorry that happened to you but I didn’t very any animosity towards men in this personally? But everyone has their reasoning to what they’re feeling and you have every right to, while I have no right to say what you feel is or isn’t true. It just helped me feel better with Autism mom everything is gonna be alright shirt.